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What is Polyanna Syndrome?



Oh, have you been robbed? How good! You've been dreaming for so long to update all the furniture in the house and make a rearrangement! What's that? Instead of the promised car, did your husband give you a set of pots? Maybe this is a reason to finally learn how to cook?Perhaps there are people among your acquaintances who, even in the most desperate situation, know how to find a secret hole. Such people look at the world in a different way, as if it is a game for them - a "Game of joy". It was played by a little girl named Polianna, a character in the book by Eleanor Porter.And it was in honor of her that this syndrome was named.Polianna syndrome is a kind of rose-colored glasses that make a person internally resist despondency, looking for something positive in all the failures surrounding him. It has some advantages and a lot of disadvantages, although at first glance it may seem to you that this syndrome cannot carry negative features.Optimism and Polyanna syndrome are one and the same, some mistakenly believe that only optimists can "suffer" from this syndrome, although this is not the case. In fact, optimists notice the advantages of the world around them because it is characteristic of them. They do it unconsciously. Optimists reach for the good intuitively, relying only on their feelings and some personal qualities.And those who are subject to Polyanna syndrome do it only because they think it's right - not to be discouraged, to follow only the positive. They do it deliberately. Every time something bad and bad happens to them, these people think like this: "Oh no, this is terrible! We urgently need to find something good in this situation!".Why not let yourself be discouraged - people are poorly aware that they are a participant in the "joy game", which means that someday they will be disappointed in it and will quit the game. This can happen at any time. People affected by this syndrome will soon get tired of looking for only advantages, or they will find that they do not exist at all, and it will all end in deep depression. In addition, they do not even notice how they constantly expose themselves to stress, because subconsciously they always perceive the situation as it is - bad, upsetting, terrible, etc. In fact, this is a pretense that will get bored someday!Also, these people most often do not understand the people around them, because they are trying to "justify" all their shortcomings. They are often deceived and deceived by the society in which they live. This is also due to the fact that most "Polyannians" are unable to feel their desires and needs.Of course, there are also advantages - one always reaches out to optimistic people, but do we need such friends who are not able to consider the person himself among this game?What are the causes of Polyanna syndrome? One of the main reasons lies in deep virginity. Nowadays, children often do not feel love from their parents, so they try to "earn" it by all means, thinking that it's about themselves. That's when the very good behavior is developed, which quickly ceases to be a Polyanna syndrome.It often happens that people become very dependent on the opinions of others, so they try in every way to please them. One of these ways of pleasing is the denial of negative emotions, as well as the endowment of people around non-existent good qualities.Polianna syndrome forces people to erase the "cons" in everything themselves, which could upset them or others. These "rose-colored glasses" distort the reality around them, so people affected by this syndrome are very poorly versed in themselves and in other people. They divide the world only into good things, completely reconfiguring their character, attitude, and point of view for this.This symptom is a defensive reaction that tries to compensate a person for his deplorable condition in which he once or still arrives. This is an internal struggle between acceptance and denial of reality, which gradually, but destroys a person. If you do not reveal this in yourself in time and do not take any measures, then this can lead to bad consequences, in which a person simply will not be able to find advantages anymore.Often the syndrome is called "unconscious", but it can only be called that because a person no longer realizes that he is acting so deliberately when it develops into a habit. Bad, it should be noted. A constant game and a smile, perhaps, for a while will make you get rid of thinking about negative situations, but this will not fix the consequences, which will soon catch up anyway. You can't just create an ideal world for yourself and live in it. This imaginary world will forever remain just imaginary. You need to live in reality. Of course, maybe you need to learn to treat everything easier, but turning a blind eye to everything that you don't like is also not an option.Polianna syndrome is a sweet smile that you have to carry through all the troubles and misfortunes; it is a need for universal approval and attention; it is giving yourself to others because you don't know what to give yourself. People never express their opinions, in fact they are depressed, although they try their best not to show it to others, relying solely on the available advantages. This is the fear of a negative attitude towards oneself, the fear of people not liking it, of being rejected by society. Because of this, people affected by this syndrome smile so broadly and seem very kind to all of us, although this is just a defense mechanism, and every mechanism breaks down sometime.These people are simply afraid to reveal their own "I" to others. They hide it somewhere deep behind a benevolent smile, hoping that they will respond with the same kindness. Hiding your own emotions and views is not an option. Someday there will come a time when there will be no advantages. So it happened with that girl Polianna from the book: she lost the ability to walk and could not find at least something to be happy about here. She realized that this "joy game" did not lead her to anything good, but only served as a temporary support. escortannonce.net/escorts/marseille/

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